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Like all of us, I often experienced some kind of fear during my life. And most of the time, it pushed me hard. It somehow made me grow. Maybe fear has been the most important driving force for me.

But sometimes I wanted to get rid of fear. Completely. The idea of being free of negative emotions made me curious. Being free of all those unnecessary emotions ordinary people do experience. Being somehow independent of my own fortune. I thought this might be the kind of perfection I was searching for. So I took some time to think about it.

At first I thought that it might work. I thought that the absence of worries and troubles might come naturally if you become wise.
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February 2010, that’s what happened:

• I posted 3 times.. Well, that’s not much, I know, but I got some private stuff going on.
• I wrote 2 exams and passed them both. So I think I’ll reach my goal of passing all of my exams.

I’ll have to post 8 times this month to reach my goal of posting 50 times till 31.03.10.

Well, february was a great month. I didn’t spend too much time with internet stuff though. So, let’s see what march will bring about.

Human beings are social animals. You’ll never feel complete without social interactions. That’s why isolated self development is very likely to fail.

Ask people about their ultimate goal and most of them reply happiness or something that’s closely related to it. And you know, it’s very hard to reach complete happiness by isolating yourself.

Of course, there’s always a certain risk if you integrate other people in your plans, as they are .. not you and so their plans might differ from yours. But it’s better to take calculated risks than to lead a boring life! At least, that’s how I think about it. Plus, you can minimize those risks by doing some thinking about yourself. Notice, that I wrote “some thinking”, don’t spend all of your time alone. Thinking can create a nice basis for your self development, but once you got your basis, further progress becomes way easier if you use other methods as well. And you won’t really know yourself unless you studied yourself in social interactions.

If you dislike all kinds of social situations, this does not mean that you should avoid them. On the contrary, you should rather get used to them. Feeling uncomfortable during most social interactions is a clear sign that you focus on yourself too much. Go out and learn to have fun! You’re not the only interesting person out there.

Does your definition of being perfect include looking perfect? If the answer to this question is yes, then I have another question for you: What’s the perfect look? Try to answer that question and you might end up confused.

Almost all kinds of perfectionism include some definition of looking perfect and there are some different approaches to describe perfect looks. I’ll explain some of them to help you finding the definition you want to use for yourself. Take a look at these:

1. Comparison with other persons. This one is bad. And very common at the same time. A lot of people take the looks of a famous model or actor and start trying to look the same. Or wanting to look the same, as they don’t know how to come closer to this goal. The truth is that you are another person. And so you will always look different. Read the rest of this entry »

Alright, let’s see what happened in january 2010.

• 11 new posts have been submitted to this blog. With the number of articles being 10! Not bad.
• I launched my new project ThinkersClub.org, and did a lot of modifications on the code during this month.
• I changed the about me page of this blog. Nothing really special, but I just wanted to mention it here..
• I’m getting used to twitter and I begin to like it.
• There are some new pictures decorating some posts on this blog.

Well, I revealed my own goals some time ago, one of them was “Having submitted at least 50 posts to this blog. At least 27 posts need to be articles.” I already posted 30 articles, so I’m done with this part. (I’ll still post articles though.) The total of posts is 39 at the moment, posting 11 times till 31.03.10 won’t be that big of a problem I suppose.

Phew! All in all, january was great. Really productive and inspiring. 2010 is gonna be a great year!

Perfectionism in its most common form includes some negative aspects. I don’t believe perfectionism is bad on its own, so I tried to figure out the cause of these problems.

Thinking about it got me to write an article about aimless perfectionism, which covers the most basic misconception about perfectionism: Not knowing what being perfect means. You have to know what your perfectionism is all about! This is the first essential step.

But it doesn’t stop at that point. Let’s talk about a concrete negative aspect of perfectionism: The fear of making mistakes.
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“If a man does not know what port he is steering for, no wind is favorable to him.” ~Seneca

You know, I think a lot about perfectionism. And sometimes, perfectionism seems to be unlogical. It seems to bear some paradoxons.

One example: A typical perfectionist’s fear of failure is always holding him back. It takes away possibilities to learn and explore. It sets artificial limits.

Well, paradoxons are always a clear sign of some logical fault, so I tried to find out what’s behind them. One key issue seems to be that lots of (or even most) perfectionists don’t seem to know what they define as perfect. They try to be perfect without knowing what being perfect actually means to them.
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